From Handbook for Mortals: Guidance for People Facing Serious Illness
http://www.growthhouse.org/educate/flash/mortals/mor99999.html
By Joanne Lynn, M.D. and Joan Harrold, M.D.
Publication date: March 1999
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When you think you want to say: |
Try this instead: |
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Dad, you are going to be just fine. |
Dad, are there some things that worry you? |
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Don't talk like that! You can beat this! |
It must be hard to come to terms with all this. |
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I can't see how anyone can help. |
We will be there for you, always. |
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I just can't talk about this. |
I am feeling a little overwhelmed right now. Can we take this up later tonight. |
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What do the doctors know? |
Do you think the doctors are right? |
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You might live forever. |
How does it seem to you? |
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Please don't give up. I need you here. |
I need you here. I will miss you terribly. But we will get through it somehow. |
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There has to be something more to do. |
Let's be sure we get the best of medical treatments, but let's be together when we have done all we can. |
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Don't be glum. You will get well. |
It must be hard. Can I just sit with you for a while. |
Created and maintained by Renette Davis. Send comments to: rd13@midway.uchicago.edu
Created: Sept. 9, 2001
Last updated: Aug. 11, 2003
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